change: are we paying attention

Updated: Aug 3, 2020

Part One of a Three-Part Series:

Our brain does this thing when we are beginning a transformation - it goes off like a fire alarm

🚨🚨🚨 and does anything it can to prevent the change from happening.


Whether you are moving to a new town, unpacking beliefs about racism in America, or starting a new budgeting process… it’s never easy. And, let’s be clear, those examples listed are not weighted the same. Things that lead to real change + are easy, that’s like the extra $10 bill you found in that pair of jeans you wore a few weeks ago… cha-ching. It doesn’t happen often.

Ps… if you do find $10 often in your jean pockets -

clean them out once and a while would ya!


The two examples that are most prominent to me right now:

One- Unpacking what it means to be a white woman at this time in history. I have found the words of Martin Luther King, Jr. to be hauntingly truthful.

I was of the belief that we were sort of in the clear from racism. I wasn’t seeing it, so it must not be happening... I so naively thought. I look at all the Black icons in the activism space whom I follow and it’s clear this was a white America sentiment. “Oh look, there’s no racism here, we had a Black President.” Laughable.


Two- I am changing my career path (ps… I despise that term “career path”. Do you have another phrase we can use there?).

After I graduated with my B.A. in Business I decided to go back to school to become a Sign Language Interpreter - another three years of school on top of the four I just finished (and I didn’t come out with a Master’s degree. I got an AAS in Sign Language Interpretation. damn... I’m clearly still bitter about the no Master’s thing).

And now, for the past twelve years, I have been a full-time sign language interpreter. It’s been my identity, my passion, my community. But that full-time status has gone down to almost no-time.

Why is that you may ask (other than coronavirus): My husband and I made a pact to always follow our dreams, no matter how “out of reach” they may seem. He- working on getting his invite to the Bassmaster Elite Series. Me- launching a budgeting business. Turns out, I am in love with the dream of guiding other people to feel the weight lift off their shoulders when they are financially independent.


These two changes - I want them and they are hard. Those two things are not mutually exclusive.

Now, in 2020, is the time to embrace change my friends. Let’s show the world how unafraid we are. And, as Tim Ferriss would lament, you can choose… do you prefer unhappiness or uncertainty?


Here’s to you!

~Melissa


#change #transformation #embracechange #dontchooseunhappiness


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